Thank you for your prayers and support last month for Bhim Lal and Good Friends of Nepal!
In the month of October, you helped people like Babu (story below) feel loved, valued, and accepted. You helped support the emotional, material, social and spiritual needs of individuals.
In rural villages of Nepal, when a wife’s husband dies, the wife is believed to be at fault and is labelled a ‘Shreeman Tokuwa’ which means ‘unlucky’ and ‘husband eater’. Unfortunately, it is common for both families to reject the widow leaving her destitute and vulnerable, as they believe it is a bad omen to have a widow living in your home. It is also thought that if they see a widow in the morning, they will have bad luck all day. People will not drink water or use objects touched by a widow believing she has made them unclean. Due to this harsh treatment and stigmatization widows become lost in despair and misery. Amidst this deeply entrenched social custom, Good Friends of Nepal (GFN) is working counter-culturally and supporting widows, with your help.
“We started the widow program by fasting once a month and donating the food money we saved to several widows we knew needed help….God said to care for the widows and orphans. So we give special care to widows.”
– Bhim Lal, Good Friends of Nepal (GFN)
The story of Babu
Babu has two grown sons. After her husband died she was blamed for his death, called a ‘husband eater’ and faced extreme rejection. Her family refused to take her in, as the responsibility to care for her had been given to the husband’s family when she married. A common phrase said by the bride’s parents during the wedding ceremony is, ‘whether you take care of her or kill her, she is now your responsibility’.
Babu struggled daily to take care of herself. When GFN met her, they invited her to join the Widows Care Program and provided her with some help each month. When Bhim Lal continued to come and visit Babu she exclaimed, “How have you had such care for us? Why are you doing this when my own people do not care for me?” Then she began to cry.
Bhim Lal hugged Babu and replied, “It is God’s love that compels us. I was told you had a problem and this is a small gift that we can help with.” Moved by his words she offered to pray for him, thanking the Lord for giving him the heart to help widows and orphans. This kindness returned by Babu then made Bhim Lal cry. The gratefulness and joy of Babu and other widows in the Widow Care Program motivate Bhim Lal and his team to do even more to stand with these women.